They are the New Homophiles†† and they accept the Church’s teaching that sexual activity can only occur between married men and women. They oppose a redefinition of marriage to include anyone else. They are fine, if that is the right word, with living celibate lives. They do not want to stop being gay; they don’t believe they can or even should. They believe God made them gay so they want to be known as gay and they want the Church to accept them on those terms. And they believe being gay is part of God’s plan and vocation for them.
They believe the Church’s teaching on homosexuality and certainly the way it is often talked about by Christians is highly limiting, often insulting, hardly ever welcoming, and in desperate need of development. They are out to change that with their lives and with their writing. <<Read More>>
Attending a Roman Catholic grade school for eight years exposed me to a fair amount of Bible reading. I felt that I had a basic knowledge of my faith and an adequate understanding of God. As I progressed through my teen years, I could not reconcile my same-sex attractions with the God and religion that I had learned about during those years in school and in church. Confident that I had not brought these attractions upon myself, and certain I’d never made a “choice” to be gay; the awareness of who I was contrasted with who I believed God to be, resulting in an intensely painful inner dissonance of sorts, leaving an escape from religion as my only path to sanity.
In returning to my faith a few years ago, it’s becoming clear to me that despite reading the Bible as a school age boy and despite loving Jesus and knowing about God, I hadn’t had an adequate understanding of Him. I lacked a solid relationship between myself, the creation, and God, my Creator. I placed a heavy emphasis on the here and now, with little outlook toward an eternal life with God. Religion was about obeying rules, being good, and going to church. God wasn’t alive and available to me in the vast and intimate way I find Him now. He was a man in a judgment seat far away, and He was a book written thousands of years ago. The thought that God, Creator of the heavens and earth, was interested in having a relationship with me was not something I recall even considering in my youth.
Obeying the rules solely for the sake of being obedient is something I’ve never been too adept at. Sure, those rules that I generally agree with as “good” are relatively simple to obey. It doesn’t take the understanding and intelligence of a genius to know that this will be a better world if I don’t murder, steal, lie, hurt others, covet, etc. But what difference does it make to this world whether I fall in love with a man or with a woman? What negative bearing would my love and commitment to another man have on the other citizens of this world? Surely, I believed, this was a stupid and arbitrary rule imposed by God for no good reason. And one which not only was I unwilling to obey, but felt unable to obey even if I were willing.
So what of my affections? And what interest does God take in who I love? My understanding of God’s prohibition on homosexuality has evolved somewhat over the years. I no longer see my propensity to seek love and affection from other men, or my desire to offer those things to other men as something which runs contrary to His will. I have freedom in Christ to form the closest of loving bonds with other men, but in doing so, I’m still called to pursue holiness and purity. And in that regard, those relationships which I choose to hold most dear should advance my lifestyle of celibacy, not detract from it. In separating sex from love, God gives me great freedom to pursue companionship and belonging among my Christian brothers.[Continue Reading...]
Occasionally I come across something that provokes a strong response in me and screams "Wrong!" This article at ChristianPost.com provided me with that type of reaction: Homosexual Born-Again Christians: They Do Exist!, by James R. Aist. I have to … [Continue reading]
I know, LORD, that a man’s way of life is not his own; no one who walks determines his own steps. (Jeremiah 10:23 HCSB) When God calls a person to Him, a life once lived by faith in self soon becomes a journey into the unexpected; a … [Continue reading]
Our present circumstances can often dictate our feelings and emotions. It is easy to get bogged down in our own sufferings, trials, and afflictions. In the midst of pain, God presents us with an opportunity to move closer to Him by dwelling on things … [Continue reading]
The divine meaning of a true friendship is that it is often the first unveiling of the secret of love. It is not an end in itself, but has most of its worth in what it leads to, the priceless gift of seeing with the heart rather than with the eyes. … [Continue reading]